“Your life is a reflection of what you believe” – Diana Cole, Positive Thought Warrior
The most important thing you can do for yourself is to determine what you want, how you want to feel, how you want to live and then believe it is reality now. I know this is tough because you are conditioned to look at your reality, the conditions that you see in front of you, and then believe that this is the life you live.
be·lieve: verb 1. accept (something) as true; feel sure of the truth of.
The act of believing is really just accepting something as true. What if you accepted what you wanted as true? Give it a try. This is the second step to getting the life you want.
Step One: Desire Desire what you want authentically and un-apologetically.
Here’s the thought leap…
Step Two: Believe | Believe it is reality now.
Step Three: Stay open and patient for your life to become what you desire.
I am not suggesting that you think about what you want your life to look like or feel like then expect an instant change. I am suggesting that you continually, patiently, believe what you want, how you want to live, to feel, is here now, in reality. No stress, no wondering, no doubting.
You must be free of self-doubt to manifest all you desire. Here is why: Self-doubt erases manifestation. If you doubt you will get something, you won’t. A friend of mine gave me a funny example to illustrate this. What if you were to call in an order for a pizza, for delivery, from your local pizza place. After you hung up the phone you doubted your pizza would arrive so you called then back and asked, “Are you sure my pizza is coming?”
“I saw the life I wanted, even though I did not have the husband, the house, the healthy business, the happy kid, I believed I did.” – Diana Cole
When you were reassured by the person who answered the phone that your pizza was on its way, you still doubted your pizza would come so you called again and again. Until finally the person answering the phone decided not to deliver the pizza to you and put you on a do-not-deliver list. This sounds crazy, right? Then why is this what you do with the larger things you want? When you release the doubt and you live in true belief, the universe is able to work for you.
I mentioned that I had to thought leap to the life I wanted to watch my life change. It was not easy and it was not intuitive. Even though I was primed to know this, it still felt like a foreign idea. But when things got bad enough, I was willing to try anything. And because I was exhausted at the same time, I was too tired to doubt. That is how it worked for me.
I saw the life I wanted, even though I did not have the husband, the house, the healthy business, the happy kid, I believed I did. Here is what I did. I thought about how I would feel in the life I wanted and I decided to feel that way now. By simply feeling like the person who lived the life I wanted, my life changed to fit my good feelings.
“The feelings I took on started to change the thoughts in my head. The way I was projecting myself to the world changed, so my world changed with it!” – Diana Cole
Here’s an example. I mentioned that I wanted a happy kid. Well living with a stressed-out mother who hates her life is not a great way to have a happy kid. But when I changed my feelings to match the life I wanted, I changed. I didn’t look stressed out anymore, I was happy, I was appreciative, I was excited.
I was all those things because the woman in the life I wanted was all those things. She was happy, appreciative, stress free because she didn’t have a taxing business and bills she couldn’t pay. She had an amazing husband, she had a happy kid, she was planning her next vacation. The feelings I took on as my own started to form better thoughts in my head.
Now guess what, I had a happy kid almost instantly by simply believing the life I wanted was mine and feeling like I was living in it. The husband, the house and the healthy business followed, but not immediately. I didn’t wake up the next day with everything I wanted. But I knew, I believed, it was all on its way. And it was. My life began to change to match the feelings I had. The feelings I took on started to change the thoughts in my head. The way I was projecting myself to the world changed, so my world changed with it!